This post was originally written by my good friend to help describe ways to cope with all the unwanted and usually useless and often painfully embarrassing advice that is often given to parents with children who have primarily behavioral/emotional special needs. Since then, I have discovered these little gems are often helpful in “normal” life situations as well. Enjoy!

How do I handle all the unwanted parenting advice?

Boundary setting statements
“Just why do you feel you need to share that?”
“That would be your opinion, I’m sorry you feel that way.”
The silent stare
“Today I’m here to purchase groceries. Thank you, but I do not care for any advice.”
“I’m sure you mean well but I did not ask for advice.”
“My child is under the care of a qualified physician and I am following his prescribed treatment plan.”
Surprise tactics
“Well, I would never have thought of that, thank you so much!”
“You know how to fix him? That’s wonderful! I appreciate your offer to take him for me. I sure need a break.” (said with relief and excitement)
“I’m so glad to finally find someone who knows how to fix my child. I’ve been searching for years now!”
“Do you have any research studies to validate your claims?”
Ignoring
Simply pretend you don’t hear or see them

Educating
“My child has a neurobiological brain disorder called Bipolar, this causes electrical ‘storms’ in his brain and results in this type of reaction.”
“My child has an illness. To learn more about it you can visit (url or support group like NAMI).”
Business cards or flyers with information
A website url with information on PBPD
“My child has PBPD, thank you for understanding”
“Caring for my child’s illness is very difficult, thank you for your understanding.”